Your Story Doesn’t End Here.

Dear friend facing a separation,

I know you’re going through a very big change right now. And I know that none of this is easy. A significant relationship is coming to an end and you’re feeling all kinds of things. Anger, sadness, relief, resentment, frustration, loneliness, uncertainty.

All of this is normal.

This might be the single hardest thing you’ve ever been through. This might be bringing up all kinds of doubts and insecurities, and making you question yourself in a way you’ve never done before.

All of this is normal.

Depending on what prompted all of this, you may still be in a state of shock. It might even feel like you’re living someone else’s life. Or, perhaps, like you’re living outside of your own body at times.

All of this is normal.

You could be feeling a deep sense of grief in the pit of your stomach. You could be questioning your sanity. You could be experiencing such overwhelm that you don’t trust yourself to take one step, let alone move through this whole process somehow.

All of this is normal.

The truth is that you are not alone inside your experience right now and - despite what many of the external voices might be telling you and what that often nasty inner critic might be echoing - you are going to be okay. I’ll say it one more time: you are going to be okay. You can and will get through this. And you will be a stronger, more resilient human because of it.

I read something the other day about reincarnation. Whether or not you consider yourself to be a spiritual person or believe in an afterlife of some kind, I think it’s worth contemplating.

The teaching was that we spend many lifetimes here on earth having a human experience. We are born and we live and we die again until we reach what many spiritual teachers call enlightenment. Only then, it is believed, are we no longer sent back to planet earth: we don’t need another human lifetime because there are no more teachings for us here. Earth is a school and the assignment is to ascend our fears.

This got me thinking: if all of this is true, could the same idea apply to this one lifetime I’m currently living? Meaning, could I experience a dozen little deaths and rebirths inside this single human experience of mine? And, if so, is it possible that these major life transitions - this falling apart of relationships and these pivotol choices that seem to completely dismantle our lives - that these are essentially rebirthing us in some way and bringing us closer to some form of enlightenment?

Maybe. Anything is possible. At least that has been my learning as of late. And that’s how I choose to see the path of change that I am walking myself right now. It’s all learning and growing, and oh so beautifully drawing me closer to a state of joy and fulfilment that only a rupturing could do. And, I believe the very same is true for you. I hope you can come to believe that too.

So, dear friend, this is not an ending - although it might currently feel like the most devastating ending of your life. Instead, you’re turning a very significant page in your life and moving into the next chapter. This is your chance to write a new story, if you want to. And Kindred Group is here to help you do just that, one day and one step at a time.

A relationship might be ending, but your story doesn’t end here.